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Our Spouse Goals!

A couple weeks ago we shared a few of our goals/resolutions for the year. (check out that post here) But we didn’t really share all of them. So today we are sharing 6 new ones! These are the fun ones. Why? Well, because they are goals that Grant and I set for each other. I encourage you all to try this with your spouse! Who cares that we’re already a month into the New Year, you still have time and this could be fun!

Grant gets credit for coming up with this idea and it all started as we were figuring out our yearly business and personal goals. We decided to pick 3 goals for the other person to work towards by the end of the year. These are goals that one of us finds very enjoyable and wants to share with our spouse. But it’s usually something the other person probably wouldn’t do on a normal yearly basis. Sounds fun right?!

The rules? It can’t be something that is routine work like “do laundry for the rest of the year”, or “clean the house” orΒ  any other thing that is not something you enjoy yourself. And if you love cleaning and doing laundry, that is truly a gift and something to take advantage of!Β 

The whole idea behind these goals are to introduce or allow your spouse to see and be part of something that you love. As we discussed in our post just prior about how important marriage is, (read that post here) we feel that these could be ways that we really cherish each other even more.

So, ready to hear what our goals are?! And yes, they do reflect our personalities big time! πŸ˜‰


Grant’s List For Hillary:
1. Start a fire using only fuel you collect on a hike, along with a flint and striker.
2. Obtain your hunter safety license.
3. Make a solid effort to harvest a turkey this spring.


Hillary’s List For Grant:
1. Play Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star on the violin.
2. Learn a ballroom dance.
3. Read an entire book of my choosing.


Yes, Grant’s all include being outside and doing things he loves. And they are ones I’m usually a little more reluctant to want to do. Mine are all ones that I love and Grant is a little more reluctant.

Grant really loves being outside. Like REALLY loves being outside. Whether it’s freezing cold or scorching hot. And he loves it even better if I can be there with him. Hunting is not something I really feel like doing with my time. I don’t mind hiking, but sitting and waiting for a turkey is not something that I would find enjoyable or what I would do in my spare time. Grant on the other hand, loves being outside so much that just being immersed in nature is enjoyable to him. By going out and spending time hunting for gobblers with Grant, I get the opportunity to learn from my husband and see the outdoors through his eyes, while doing something with him that brings him enjoyment.

I need the hunter safety course to be able to hunt, so it’s just step one. I’ve heard it’s an online thing, though, Β so hopefully it won’t be too bad. We’ll see.

As far as starting a fire goes, I’m already ahead of the game because I know how to find fat wood! If you don’t know what it is, it’s essentially the sap you find in the knots of dead pine trees and it is very flammable. I know, you’re impressed. I only know this because Grant has told me all about it and it’s been a lifesaver in starting fires in our stove at home.

I’m not exactly sure how Grant feels about the list I’ve made for him. He’s ok with learning a song on the violin, because he never had the opportunity to learn an instrument. The dancing may be a different story though. He likes the idea of it, but when we dance in the kitchen we end up laughing about how stiff he looks. I try to get him to loosen his hips, but “it just keeps getting more awkward” (in his own words). The reading might be the hardest part, but I’m excited for him to experience a book the way that I do, just as I will try to experience nature as he does. I’m excited for us to learn together and cherish each other more by choosing to do things that bring the other more love and happiness.

Let me know if you decide to take on the challenge of choosing goals for your spouse and then tell us what they are! We’ll cheer you on! πŸ™‚

  1. Debbie says:

    I just L❀️VE this!
    Maybe Dad and I should try this, although I’m almost too scared to think of what I might have to do – like take a computer class or some such thing πŸ˜©πŸ˜†
    You guys are the best and I love you both so much!
    🌸Mom

    • Aw, you and Dad should definitely do it!! I would love to know what you guys come up with!! Lol, the computer class could be kinda rough, but it is something he enjoys! πŸ˜‰
      We love you too!!

  2. Ashley K says:

    Wow such a great idea! Totally going to I plent this in my marriage! Good luck on that fire πŸ˜‚

  3. Erica says:

    Great post!

  4. April says:

    I love the goals!! I need to do this with my husband.

  5. Amanda says:

    This is incredible! ❀️❀️

  6. Lizzy says:

    What a great idea!!! Please share when you do each one!

  7. Alissa says:

    Such a fun idea!

  8. Brittney says:

    This is such a great idea!

  9. Linda says:

    I never even thought to do something like this. Great idea.

  10. Mandy Provan says:

    What a fantastic idea!! I love this. good luck starting that fire – you’re definitely going to have to blog a follow up so we can see a pic once you get it going. πŸ˜‰

  11. Mandy Provan says:

    This is a fabulous idea. I think i’d be a bit nervous as to what my hubby’s goals for me would be….. hahahaha

  12. Love this idea, I’ve never heard of a couple’s list before. How fun!

  13. Mandy says:

    This is the sweetest idea. Can’t wait to hear about how it all turns out at the end of the year!

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